September 14, 2013


For JP, a fellow pilgrim in wrestling

Do you allow yourself times of wrestling?

You may have faith questions, identity questions, destiny questions, philosophical questions or many other kinds of dilemmas.  It seems important to God that we create space for honest reflection & feedback from God Himself and from trusted friends who know us and are safe to us.  How do we know it is important to Him?  If He desires "truth in the innermost part"(Ps. 51:6) then it seems logical that there is an invitation there for seeking it out. Sometimes deep, soulful questions & wrestlings are what drive us the deepest into the heart of God. We also see many biblical characters whom God granted a name change as they were becoming something new or understanding something in some new way about God or themselves.  I love how God marks their wrestling with a name change which reflects their impacted identity or destiny.  

One of the classics along these lines is Jacob's wrestling with God in Gen. 32.  This divine appointment seems to not have caught Jacob by surprise; rather, he intuitively prepares for it.  He seemed to know he needed this personal encounter to have the character & identity change he yearned for. It was nighttime, but "he got up" and sent his 2 wives, 11 children and all his possessions across the stream.  Then come these powerful words:  

"So Jacob was left alone..." 

 There are some wrestlings that we must face alone, head on with God Himself.  There is no other way.  Some wrestlings require a whole night, others three dark days in a tomb and others much longer.  Jacob knew what he wanted and didn't let time, the darkness of the night, separation from his family, fatigue or the pain of a dislocated hip deter him from obtaining the highly coveted blessing that would lead to a changed life.  He went from Jacob to Israel at daybreak because he "struggled with God and with men and [overcame]..."  (Gen. 32:28).

It is unfortunate that sometimes others don't give us the same time & space for our honest wrestlings.  Even in the church there is sometimes a hushed judgment on those who doubt or ask hard questions as if perhaps this assumed "lack of faith" could intimidate God.  Frankly, it may intimidate the church but it does not intimidate God!  Any good teacher knows that those who ask good, honest questions will wrap their heads around the material more readily.  Their intellectual quest is usually rewarded.  Any worthwhile lover knows that the testings & trials of love strengthen the bonds of the relationship; an untested relationship in life is not enriched by the perseverance required by testing.  A relationship put through fire has produced beautiful character, perseverance and hope (Rom. 5:3,4).

The Desert Fathers saw the lack of space in the developing church for questionings, wrestlings, dark nights, soulful yearnings and tears and responded by going away to quiet places to ponder alone with God their heartfelt queries.  Apparently, there were many followers of Jesus who flocked to see the Desert Fathers when they found no place for their own wrestlings in the traditional church.  I hope we  are getting better at this.

As you ponder your own questions, don't be overwhelmed.  Let the Shepherd of your Soul guide you in this delicate yet deciding piece of your pilgrim-journey.  He can lead you to places (physical or spiritual), bring helpful people across your path, accompany you in the necessary times of solitude, give you powerful rhemas of encouragement from the Scriptures, lead you to kyros moments in your journey and in short, lead you through it all.  He is not afraid of any of it.  Invite Him into your wrestlings and you will find a compassionate, wise, unhurried companion who knows the terrain.

In one of those deep, delightful late night talks in my living room, a friend commented to me recently that "becoming is done in a crooked line".  I like that.  A lot.  It is not a straight, predictable path.  It does not look like anyone else's. It is not paved out by the church in identical, mass production.  It is your own crooked path with your God.  And guess what?  He longs to travel it with you!  What a sense of relief & freedom when you realize you can release the burden of having to be in charge of your time of questioning and just rest in your wrestling.  He will make all things clear in their time, give you the answers He feels you need and walk through both undisguised days & honest nights with you.

Who knows what beautiful new name you will receive at the end?  It will surely be perfectly crafted to reflect you & your journey with God...

Photo by:  Nate Houle


  1. So important that we give both ourselves and others room to wrestle with our faith and in our relationship with God!
    I like "becoming is done in a crooked line" and that "God longs to travel it with you!" I think we can too easily believe and teach, without meaning to, that our relationship with God should be a straight diagonal, always pointing up. Perhaps our concept of grace extends far enough to believe that He's always there (on the straight line), ready to receive us back when we get over our detour/ getting lost/ wandering/ turning away/ circling back, but we might doubt that He never leaves us on the deviations either.
    I was recently struck from Psalm 23 that "He leads me in paths of righteousness" AND "He is with me in the valley of the shadow" and that those two can often coincide... that the difficulty doesn't (always) mean I've strayed.
    Thanks for writing that consistently meets and challenges me, whether in prose or poetry.

  2. Pam I wish I could articulate clearly my thoughts of your post, just know I was encourage by what you said so thank you for that.

  3. Thank you, Pam, spoken so lovingly and wisely. I feel like my journey has just brought me to a place where I'm seeing the sun again and I have proved true your statement, "you will find a compassionate, wise, unhurried companion who knows the terrain." Amen! I thank you, steadfast God!


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